I reached somewhat of a middle ground. I tried many combinations of rendering out a master. I believe it was a lower bit rate audio 44.1k my footage was 60fps but I took it to 59.94 and I think that was the biggest difference maker. Things are right on where they should be. The audio cross transitions still pop sometimes and some of the sync is still off like the music with the video beats. but ill just leave it as is cause that is as good as I can get it now knowing what the true problem is.